How To Be The Best You

Even if you’re perfect for it, if you don’t want something, you’ll never have it. It doesn’t matter how stereotypically perfect you are for it or how naturally good you are at it you are. If you don’t want it, you won’t get it.

There’s this young guy I know, he has the perfect look for modeling, I’d say GQ. He has a unique look, handsome face, great height. I’ve met with him and talked a few times about starting a modeling career including what I can help him with, branding and PR wise. He was responding to me, “that sounds cool” I’d say, “lets do some photoshoots, build your portfolio” he’d say, “yeah okay.” Even though he was responding positively, his body language was saying otherwise. His attitude was neutral. He wasn’t excited, passionate, inspired, encouraged or motivated. He was just there to meet to hear me out.

It was a total bummer because I went there ready to work, even after meeting face to face for the first time I excitedly thought, okay cool I may have my first modeling client here. The reason he was being those ways is, he had some personal insecurities. After we stayed talking a bit more, he started to open up saying, he wanted to work on his body build, he wasn’t sure if his tattoos would fit the “model look”, he didn’t like his smile. This started to open my ears, mind and heart about what this young guy really needed.

He did have an “interest” in modeling. People told him he should model all the time, throughout his life. He “wants to try it” but he just doesn’t know if he’s a fit. Well, modeling is very diverse these days. The things that make you unique and stand out are the things that get you jobs and gigs.

I wish I could go on saying we ended up building his confidence, doing some shoots, encouraging, motivating and inspiring him. But we didn’t, I never saw him after that, and I’m not exactly sure where he is these days. I hope one day we can cross paths. Now that I am here with my Publicist career, I can really help him build his brand. I would be ready to encourage, inspire and motivate him. Build his confidence and self esteem. Only you can be the best version of your self. To be the best version of your self you start with wanting to be the best you.

How to Make A To-Do List

Feeling lazy? Maybe you have no reason to be motivated? Or you lost any and all ambition you might have had? Well, snap out of it! It’s time to get things done. Why isn’t now the perfect time to be doing what you love? What is it that you love? What comes to mind when I ask you, “what are you passionate about? What inspires you?”

Once you find your passion you’ll gain your motivation back, why? Because your passion is your purpose. Once you realize that you have a purpose and there’s a reason for your existence, you’ll gain all sense of motivation and confidence.

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Mornings will be different because your thought process will be transformed. You’ll wake up feeling rejuvenated, refreshed, inspired, encouraged and motivated. All because your purpose is calling you each day, and it won’t hang up until you pick up the phone and answer it. There’s a message that you have for the world, what is it? There’s a calling for your life you just need to follow through. There’s a story, your story and it has to be shared with the world, go capture it.

Here’s how to get motivated

Each night before you get ready for bed, make a To-Do list for the next day. This list can include big or small tasks. Just as long as there’s something on the list that you really want to get done. Make the list realistic until you start proving to yourself that you can complete the list. Once the list gets too easy for you, start adding things that make you uncomfortable or a little scared. In a good way of course. I mean things like, write my first song, make my first video, post my work for others to see, tell my parents & friends about my passion. Things like that, that might be a little scary but deep down are a big step that you’ve been wanting to take.

To-Do List Tips

  • Start small and realistic
  • Add at least (1) task that has to do with personal growth
  • Add (1) task that will get you out of your comfort zone
  • Add a few tasks that make you happy
  • Always add (1) interest that you want to learn about

If you honestly don’t know where to start with this list, hit the basics.

The Starter’s Basic To Do List

  • Wake up
  • Get out of bed
  • Get Dressed
  • Eat Breakfast
  • Do some googling’ about   insert your passion here   (give your self a time limit for this task, because you can easily get carried away and end up wasting some time)
  • Exercise, stretch, or go on a walk for 10 minutes
  • Have a 20 minute brainstorming session about your passion and projects that you can work on now to sharpen your skills

Some small things I like to have on my To-Do Lists, are checkboxes. I love being able to check things off of my list, it gives me a sense of accomplishment and pride. I tend to add a few simple tasks at the top of my list, that way, even if it’s something small I can still get it done. This helps me get into the rhythm of completing tasks for the day.

Phones usually come with a notepad feel free to use that or you can get a free todo list app. I use Google Keep, because it’s simple and works as a Notepad and a to-do list, it also has tags, so you can organize your thoughts and even use it for brainstorming sessions. There’s even a desktop app you can install on your laptop or computer. I also like that it links with Google Drive so you can send your brainstorming notes there and expand them!

The next time you feel unmotivated, uninspired, discouraged- remember that your life has purpose. Each day is another chance for you to get it right, work hard, work on your skills, work towards your goals and reach your dreams. All you have to do is live with a purpose.

10 Ways to Build Your Brand

How do you build your brand and start gaining a following? When you start working on your career, you begin to wonder how to gain some traction and engagement.  There’s plenty you can do! Below I’ll list 10 things you can get started on now.

I can go on and on with the many gifts & talents that For the Honor can help you build your brand for, I’ll name some now. So you want to be a model, writer, speaker, actor, rapper, singer, news reporter, professional athlete, business owner, youtuber, graphic designer, comedian, preacher, motivational speaker, voice actor, author, artist, graphic designer, painter, etc. Welcome to the community of hopefuls!

You are just getting started and you have no clue about what to do first. Here’s a list of things you start on to begin to build your brand:

  1. Highlight reel: Use your phone or camera to make some progressive proof videos of your self. You can use these videos as highlight reels to see what you still need to work on.
  2. #WERKIT: Build your confidence, a healthy confidence not cockiness! I’ll have some more encouraging posts coming weekly to help inspire, encourage and motivate you!
  3. #HoneIt: Refine and perfect your skills; Practice, practice, practice!
  4. Vlog&Blog: Start a personal tracker, diary, or blog/vlog. Along the lines of  #1, keep video notes of your progress. Contact me if you want any tips on how to start a blog and if you need a vlog template.
  5. Make it a habit: keep at it, every day, every chance you get, work on building your skills, Stay focused, if you really want this, you need to focus on it, but make sure you keep a healthy balance for your family, friends and food ;P
  6. Stay learning: Take courses at school or after school even online course!  I’m going to start posting some online course on my site soon! Stay tuned and be sure to subscribe to our site so you can be the first to know when our courses are up!
  7. Video Guides: Find some informative videos! Again, For The Honor will be posting up some informative and helpful video guides soon! #subscribe
  8. e-Portfolio: Start piecing together your portfolio, once you start getting comfortable in front of your camera, you can start building your social media presence. Social Media consistency will not only share your status updates but it will help grow your support base ! I’ll be posting up a portfolio sample and some social media tips to help you out!
  9. Be Professional: Make business cards, this is very important and goes with #10, once you have a title of your career choice, contact me, I can help you with any branding needs, just shoot me an email (khristy@forthehonor.net)!
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  10. Get out and netWORK: When anyone invites you anywhere GO! This is always a networking opportunity. If it comes up naturally, of course, talk about it, mention your interests, goals, aspirations, current projects, future projects. You never know who you’re going to meet! and what they’re working on or striving for! You can possibly collaborate with them or maybe they have some connections that would be helpful for you. Always have your business cards with you, it looks so profession and is very impressive when you hand it out be confident!

5 Tips to Find Your Passion

There are many options when it comes to finding which passion to live out with your life. Searching for your gifted passion can be overwhelming, frustrating, stressful, confusing, or even depressing at times. Once you truly find your passion, life feels that much more purposeful, so much motivation feels your soul. Once you finally find your life reason and decide to make it your life goal and aspiration you’ll find it as a joyous transition but that doesn’t meant it will be easy.

One thing I really appreciate my parents for is their willingness and open-mindedness of letting me try anything and everything growing up. Each school year and summer, my mom would bring a stack of papers full of extra curricular activities. She would let my older brother, sister and I go through them and choose which sport, club, team, class or lessons we wanted to get involved with. Even if we wanted to do multiple, she would let us. She would always put the piano lessons on top for me, she was aware of my love for music and creativity since the beginning. My siblings and tried everything, from soccer tryouts to speed reading. From music technology, to football and cheerleading even golf and animation classes. Before I go off on a tangent reminiscing let’s get back on track here, (by the way we also did track and field and cross country for about 8 years.)

Anyways, there are many ways  for people to find their “thing.” Sometimes it takes years to find it and sometimes you’re born with your gift. Don’t be discouraged when you confuse passion & gifts with hobbies & interests. That is totally okay and a part of the process, believe me! It’s all learning, building and honing your skills.

After all, You won’t know until you try everything your heart desires then one day you’ll realize that you’ve found the one. Just look at my childhood as an example and all the crazy things I tried, and to make matters worse, I loved them all. So how will you know when it truly is your passion and purpose?

There’s always that one interest of yours that is constantly in the back of your mind. When you’re doing your work, in class, at your office, reading your emails. You have this lingering and yet scary thought of this dream that makes you so happy every time you consider following that dream.

Each time you start working on making these dreams come true you feel complete, you feel motivated, joyful, positive, and you are willing to do all the hard work because it’s necessary.

You might be wondering, but this is just a mere dream of mine, a simple wish. How can my passion be taken seriously, and be made into a career, lifestyle or even my life’s purpose? Your passion only starts as a passion until you cultivate it, then it evolves and matures into your purpose.

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So here’s the 5 tips on how to find your passion:

  1. Try anything and everything, even though it’s already planted deep in your heart, mind and soul. You still have to find it.
  2. Keep at it, no matter if you suck at it at first, if you love it, it’s worth the trial and error.
  3. Embrace all the failures because that’s when you learn the most.
  4. Be confident when your transitioning from passion to purpose so that people will take you seriously.
  5. Always continue to learn, grow and enhance your passion, every life has a purpose.

What’s Holding YOU Back?

“Your gifts are designed to reach the world for Jesus. So what’s holding you back?” – Peyton Jones

That was the opening line of today’s Daily Devotional. This question really resonated with me. I thought, what is holding me back? I have this gift from God and I’ve been wondering its purpose for years.

The purpose of your gift and my gift is the same, and different. The purpose is to reach the world for Jesus. The difference is how we choose to do that. You were provided a gift for a reason, to make a change in the world, to impact the world in a positive way.

So what’s holding you back? There are many people in the Bible who had absolutely zero experience and God was able to use them in the biggest ways. Why can’t that be you and me?

Having 10-20 years experience, 1-5 years experience, or no experience at all; you can still be used to reach the world. There’s a purpose that you hold with your life and it’s fulfilled with how you live it. Live your life using your gift, and live your life with the passion you have for that gift. Now I bet you’re thinking about how to get started.

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“LIVE YOUR LIFE USING YOUR GIFT AND WITH THE PASSION YOU HAVE FOR THAT GIFT.
WHAT’S HOLDING YOU BACK?” 
– KHRISTY TOO

Well, Since each person is different, we each have our own individual gift. Maybe your gift is writing, an aspiring author. But you think, “there’s tons of writers why should I add to the huge list? I’m no different.” That is just not true! That’s a negative mindset that you should get rid of and stay far away from!

There is still A Mission to be completed. Or else why would there be so many passionate people with such amazing gifts and talents? You wouldn’t be filled with this passionate gift if it wasn’t meant for something greater. There wouldn’t be multiple people with similar gifts if the gift wasn’t needed to reach more of the world.

Let’s get back to our example about being a writer, there are many writers out there, you’re right. I’m here to tell you that each and everyone of you can reach a mass who really needed to be reached by YOU specifically. Each writer has their own individual and personalized style, interests, goals, and agendas right? Yes, of course there are similarities. BUT! there’s no way there’s another writer who is YOU.

So what’s holding YOU back? The answer is you. Your next step is to start using your gift For the Honor. 

 

 

 

Is My Passion My Purpose?

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       🎶 “My future is calling, my future is calling I gotta go,
I can’t stay here no mo’ I can’t stay here no mo’ gotta go.” 🎶

Throughout my life I’ve struggled with the question: is my passion my purpose? There has been many people throughout my life who have told me, “it’s just a phase.” A phase? This caused me to feel that my passion for talent, music & the entertainment business was not authentic. It honestly caused uncertainty in me and completely convinced me that it was just a phase, a hobby, love and just an interest.

Unfortunately, I decided to listen to the people who told me it was a phase, and these decisions caused a MAJOR setback that could have been avoided. I often remade the decision that I should just leave it at that and give it up. Because of this, my whole life I decided not to put my full focus or efforts towards this passion, in thoughts I was helping me out.

You might be wondering why I would listen to those people. Well, it turns out that I too wasn’t 100% sure if this passion instilled in me was also my purpose. Was God okay with this? Were they one in the same and I just wasn’t cultivating and caring for this ongoing love of mine? I felt this passion of mine was just a mere phase through life and someone else would change the game.

After all, how would it be me to make any change in the world? How could I make a difference, I’m just one person what could I possibly do. It’s been 27 years now and I’ve loved music ever since I could remember. I’ve taken classes, courses, expanded my interests within the broad industry of the music world. I have finally came to the solidified realization that after all these years, that this is NOT a phase.

It was very easy for me to sulk in my demise and get frustrated, angry and bitter about wasting so much time not investing into my passion just because I listened to the negativity of others. How much time I lost, how much more I could have learned. All the wisdom, experience and professionalism I would have if I just kept with it.

But I didn’t want to stay negative, I pulled my self out of that self pity and thought, NO! This was all part of the journey, part of the building process. Luckily the love was so strong that throughout my life I still would take courses, read books, take internships, accept entertainment opportunities and jobs that all would help me towards any potential future goals.


I have a job to do with my life, and not only am I counting on me but the future is. I not only want, need and have to go forward with this passion, but I’m responsible, depended on and destined for it!

This about this.. throughout your lifetime, who was your favorite teacher, instructor, professor, coach, authoritative figure? Was it the mean, strict one who obviously hated their job? OR was your favorite the one teacher who was so passionate about their life’s calling? It’s that one who you could feel really cared if you learned what they have to teach. The one who has a plethora of knowledge to pass to you and does what ever they can to make sure you succeed. Not ever would your favorite teacher be the one who shows up late, doesn’t teach, and literally wastes your time, right?

The point I’m trying to make here is, each and every single person has a life calling, a God-given gift, a passion, and a PURPOSE. If you don’t fulfill your purpose someone else will swoop in and fill your spot with whatever they are trying to do. Why do you think the world is so corrupt and filled with hate. This is because there are so many people unequipped, insecure of their potential and not confident that they have a purpose to live out during there time here on this Earth to help impact this world!

So to answer this daunting question I came up with and ask my self daily. Is my passion my purpose? Well that’s really for you to decide.  Against all odds, if you feel that it’s right in your heart, your soul and your mind. If it’s healthy for you and your love for it is so deep, if it’s your God-given gift and you want to use it to make an impact on this world then YES, your passion is your purpose. If it’s unhealthy, and you just want it selfishly for fame, fortune, or to prove things to your enemies, then I’m sorry but NO, your passion is NOT your purpose. 

🎶Dear future me,

Will I be alright?
because I’m trying to maintain
I lose sleep at night
Trying to not go insane
Will i ever move from this place?
I can’t give up
I don’t wanna lose out
I’m trying to conquer this thing I call life
Sometimes I wonder
Is it worth the fight?

Dear future me,

If I can be honest,
Do I even have a chance?

Dear future me,

I can see the sun peeking through the rain
Cause I let go of the pain and shame
Finally, I can see clearly now the rain is gone
I think I can make it now the pain is gone🎶

Hold On

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  How frustrating is it when you finally know what to do, you finally have your plan, you’re motivated and willing. All you want to do is get this show on the road, BUT! You have to hold on.

Now that I’ve gotten to the point in my life where I’m ready to start my career as a talent manager, I got so much to do, I ain’t got much time. There’s still so much that needs to be done  and I’m not complaining, I’m ready for everything. It seems like every time I start doing one thing, another thing comes up that I need to complete before the first thing. As I’m working on those two tasks more things spring up. But just like the song says, I just have to hold on and I know someone up above is rooting for me.

I can feel the presence of God with me, He’s guiding me, providing for me, and I also know my grandparents are cheering me on up above saying, “Come on Khristy, you got to get back up.” My families support and my faith are both a huge majority of my drive and motivation. They’re finally all on board with what I want to do with my life, and I can’t wait to make them all proud. I feel destined and I know that I’m finally fulfilling my life purpose for The Lord while I’m here on Earth.

I truly feel like this is what God made me for, I’m destined to become a talent manager and help inspire, encourage and motivate those who also want to achieve their dreams and/or life purpose by utilizing their gifts and talents from God.

But! before I do all of that, I need to take my time, and really make sure that I have everything in order and taken care of. I am going to

Hold On – Alabama Shakes 

So, bless my heart,
Bless my mind,
I got so much to do,
I ain’t got much time
So, must be someone up above
Saying come on girl,
You got to get back up.
You got to hold on.
Yeah you got to hold on.

Yeah, you got to wait,
I don’t wanna wait.
Well I don’t wanna wait,
No I don’t wanna wait.